My Spouse Doesn’t Listen To Me is a common phrase for people nowadays. It almost seems like the norm that nobody has that connection that couples use to have only a few short years ago. As human being we just want to be heard, we don’t want to feel ignored and we want or spouse to respond to our communication?
In this day and age communication has become a lot less personal, people usually communicate through text, Facebook and email. Although it is easy to keep in touch with so many people the one on one interaction we desire with another human is not there and communication with your spouse is becoming more difficult.
Mort Fertel talks about how most people confuse INFORMATION communication with PERSONAL communication. With all the technology available to us and all sorts of options to communicate information, how do you really feel the pulse of someone’s soul? You can’t text or Facebook message that. It doesn’t matter how great your communication gadget is it won’t matter. It’s PERSONAL communication that determines the success or failure of your marriage and without it you will keep wondering why my spouse doesn’t listen to me.
Do you know what is causing so many marriages to fail these days? Communicating through technology! More and more these day’s husbands and wives use technology to communicate with each other. You want to do something TODAY to improve your marriage? STOP CONNECTING SO MUCH WITH YOUR SPOUSE THROUGH TECHNOLOGY! In a marriage you’ve got to HEAR each other. This doesn’t mean hear the sounds of each other’s words. You’ve got to be able to hear the silence between the sounds and interpret the unspoken meaning of a pressed lips or teary eyes. You’ve got to be able to hear the shapes and sounds in each other’s heart. You can’t accomplish this communicating through technology.
My Spouse Doesn’t Listen To Me – Do Communication Techniques Work?
Communication techniques taught by marriage counselors will not solve your problem of “my spouse doesn’t listen to me”. There is no clinical communication therapy that can help you to think each other’s thoughts, feel each other’s joy or hurt from each other’s pain. Mort Fertels 1-on-1 phone session schedule and the Marriage Fitness Tele Boot Camp are filled with casualties from traditional communication strategies taught in most marriage counseling. Most people who have been down this traditional path know that it does NOT work.
Most people think that if my spouse doesn’t listen to me that communication techniques will solve the problem. But in all reality it like putting a band aide on a bruise. It’s the wrong solution.
Communication techniques aren’t meant for relationships they are meant for negotiation and sales. You’re trying to work on your relationship not complete a transaction. I can almost guarantee you that your problem is not clarity; it’s concern. Ironically, communication techniques sometimes give people clarity that they don’t care what their spouse thinks or feels. They “got it,” but “it” doesn’t matter to them anymore.
My Spouse Doesn’t Listen To Me – How Do You Get Back To The Place Where You and Your Spouse Care Again?
The Marriage Fitness Program teaches a unique approach to get your spouse to listen to you versus traditional counseling. Most approaches in marriage counseling preach communication skills. But the truth of the matter is, communicating effectively does NOT create love in your marriage. In fact, it is the very opposite. Once you have created love in your relationship communication with one another becomes easy. I’ll prove it to you.
How was your communication when you fell in love? Good, right? You didn’t have the problem of my spouse doesn’t listen to me. In fact, you can communicate with only the wink of an eye and you can finish each other’s sentences when you’re in love. And yet you haven’t learned any communication techniques or even known each other that long.
Then years later when you think it would be easier because you know each other inside and out, you can’t even get through to each other if you wanted to.
Listen carefully: Communication has very little to do with techniques or knowledge of each other. It has everything to do with the depth of connection between the communicators.
You should not be asking, “How do I communicate effectively with my spouse.” The question you should be asking is, “How do I connect with my spouse again?” Once you reconnect, you won’t be sitting in silence in the basement wondering why my spouse doesn’t listen to me. You’ll hear the sound of the pipes from above. It’ll be your spouse. You were heard.
